Letter to the Girl-Next-Door




Dear you,


Do you feel like a small fish in a big pond? Do you feel invisible in a crowd where no one gazes at you for more than three seconds? Then I am going to tell you what Princess Amelia (Anne Hathaway’s character) was told in The Princess Diaries. “No one can make you feel inferior except yourself.”


Do you feel insecure when a girl from your group gets asked for a drink during a night out? Not only is she stunning, but she has an equally good looking boyfriend. You, on the other hand, are skipped. Do you take it as a personal insult? If yes, then your heart has forgotten what is right and wrong. Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold jewelry or fine clothes. Rather, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight. (1 Peter 3:3-4)






Do you feel uneasy when you unexpectedly happen to see the guy you so long ago had a crush on, realising that instant that you still like him or would at least want him to be your friend? You try to catch his eye, hoping to see whether he notices you; he doesn’t, he’s busy on a call. You curse yourself because you should have worn that short dress and those killer heels because then you would have looked “hotter”. You can change the outer you, but what goes on inside can’t be hidden under some fancy clothes and expensive shoes. You end up feeling sorry; but here’s what you really should be telling yourself — Stop looking. Let things happen. Don’t arm-twist God into getting what you want. You’ve learnt what a big mistake it can be writing your story when it has been perfectly written by the One who not only knows you the best, but also knows what’s best for you.




When the Hollywood fraternity socialises, do you only see Angelina Jolie and her clones in the party? Why then would you want to be as beautiful as that girl you see right in front of you? If you think she’s Angelina, then you might just be Catherine Zeta Jones. I might sound like a mad woman, but if only you would open your eyes and really see, then you might understand what I am trying to say.


Life gives you moments of unadulterated happiness, enjoy them. Don’t waste your time on “what if”, “if only”… Enjoy the beauty that you are surrounded with, because when you do, they will see the reflection of the beauty God has made you in.


Forget what they said — That you are not as pretty as her, that you are unstable, that you are fat, that you will be more attractive if only you behaved in so and so manner… They are all wrong because there never was anything wrong with you to begin with. You are beauty in the ashes. You are beauty in the broken. Because YOU are “fearfully and wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:14), just like that girl whom you envy. And when people start seeing you as the perfectly imperfectly one, that’s when your heart will truly be at peace. That’s when your heart will understand the words that have been around since the dawn of ages, “beauty really is skin deep”.



Yours truly,

Perfectly imperfect one





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